Catastrophising. It's A Thing.
I'm really good at catastrophising things. Like, really really good. My brain automatically goes 'Far out, brussel sprout! This is bad, really bad!' It's always the first and immediate reaction.
I've always been this way. I used to get incredibly upset and frustrated if whatever happened didn't match my vision of how it should have happened. And then my brain would go 'THIS IS THE WORST THING TO EVER HAPPEN OMG WHAT AM I GOING TO DO?!?!?' And, I'd usually be saying all this to my Mum.
And, yeah, I do still go straight to 'Omg this is the worst!' But, 99% of the time I can rationalise things. I can stop myself from catastrophising them, and accept things, or change things. And, I usually still complain to my Mum, but now when she says 'Oh well' or 'Wasn't meant to be.' I agree with her instead of being angry and frustrated that she wasn't on my side. (She was. She's always on my side).
I still like things to go exactly the way I envision that they will, but, I'm much more ok now when they don't.
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