Lucy-Anne: Confidence Coach, Rebel Mum, Diet Culture Drop Out.
I believe the key to a happy, fulfilled, authentic life is self-confidence. When we are confident and courageous, we feel worthy, we feel good enough. We stop trying to change ourselves to fit in, we stop comparing ourselves. We belong.
How do I know?
well, I've lived it.
I spent over half my life hating who I was. Believing that I was not allowed to take up space. That my voice wasn't worthy. Worthy of what? Of everything that I want. Of being who I am. Of taking up space. I spent over half my life worrying about peoples opinions. Worrying about what they thought of me.
Guess what I learned?
Some people are never going to like who you are.
Those people don't matter. The people who do matter, they're in the ring with you. Every. Single. Day.
It took me a while to get here. It was messy. There was crying. Lots of crying. but, far out brussel sprout, now that I am where I am, I'd never go back. Back to that shadowy bit in the corner, that small sliver of black, I was huddled in there. Willing myself to be smaller so that I fit in. In there I found: an eating disorder, anxiety, depression, and an abusive boyfriend. But, if only I could fit in, be sure that everyone liked me, then, then I would be happy and confident, right?
WRONG! All I found in there was sadness. I hated my life so much. I hated my job. I hated myself. I hated my stupid relationship and my eating disorder. But, it was all I was worth, right? I wasn't good enough for anything more.
But, I am worth more.
I still remember the phone conversation I had with my Dad one January (seriously, my parents have always been my biggest cheer squad, and they are the ones whose opinions matter to me) I was trying to avoid going to work, because it was soul destroying. I was walking down King St in Perth, absolutely balling my eyes out to him. He wanted nothing more than to help me. He booked me an appointment that changed my life forever.
The shadows started letting more light in. I started to see my worth. See the things that were holding me back. I worked hard to free myself of those things. It was like I was at the beginning again. I could do and be anything I wanted.
So, I chose me.
I chose to be me. I chose vulnerability. To stand up every day and say 'Hey, this is who I am.' I figured out what I wanted to do when I grew up, and I'm now a fully qualified counsellor, and an advanced certified NeurOptimal® Neurofeedback specialist.
I walk the talk.
I won't negotiate who I am with anyone. I am confident about who I am and what I want. I show up as that person every day. Through all this work I have done on myself, I have developed clever questions, ways to challenge your beliefs to empower you to find your confidence.
I know you have it all inside you. The strength, the ability, and the drive to find those faulty core beliefs holding you back, and smash through them. You are the expert in your own life, you know who you are. She might be hiding, but she's in there. Let me help hold the torch while you look for her.
I believe in radical self love. I believe we are all good enough and worthy enough. I strive to be brave everyday, to find gratitude and joy. I love without limit.
I draw knowledge from my own lived experiences, as well as my years of using NeurOptimal® neurofeedback, counselling and coaching to help you find your best self again.
Ready to join the rebellion? My booking form is here.
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